The Healing Power of Forgiveness

"There are no justified resentments. Give up your personal history."
Wayne Dyer

Judgment, anger, resentment, guilt, shame and fear are emotions that come out of your response to life. When you no longer judge others then there is nothing to forgive. Realize that everyone is doing the best job they know how to do with the awareness that they have at any given time. The terrible things that are done to others come from hearts that are crying out for love. A heart that is open, loving and kind has no desire to hurt another. A loving heart would not even have those thoughts, for hateful thoughts would not be in alignment with its dominant vibration of love, peace and joy.

How would your life transform if there were no judgments’ in your heart? What would you have to release in order to accept everyone in your life? Unconditional acceptance means that I accept you just the way you are. I have no need to change you so that I feel better in your presence.

Try this exercise:

If there is someone you are holding judgment around, for one week focus on their positive attributes-the many things that make them a good person. Do not say that there is nothing good about this person for they are in your life for a reason. Nothing happens by accident in the universal scheme of life. Everything has a purpose, which is why we attract people and circumstances to us. The person you have negative feelings about just might be there to show you how to love unconditionally.

When you make another person wrong, you are bringing yourself into vibrational alignment with that which you have judged as wrong. That energy will attract to you more people and experiences that are in alignment with that vibration. That is why releasing a negative relationship through forgiveness, opens you up for a better feeling relationship.

We often attract the same type of person to us over and over again because that is what we are vibrating. The same goes for a job or a boss that you do not like. You leave one job only to find the next job or the next boss has the same irritating traits.

The way to a joyous life with happy people and exciting creative circumstances is to lift your vibration by focusing on what is good in your world, what is good about the people around you and to disconnect from any negative thinking. Try for a week and watch how your life begins to transform and new opportunities come forth.

Let go of the past, forgive everyone whom you have held negative feelings for, focus on how good life is, appreciate every moment of every day and soon you will find yourself surrounded by joyous people living joyous lives. See yourself body, mind and spirit as whole and perfect just the way you came forth into this physical dimension to experience life.

Write to me and let me know how you are doing with this exercise.

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Be Willing To Receive

“To receive we must be alert, awake and prepared to receive.”

                        Matthew Fox

Some of us are wonderful givers and yet remain in lack. The reason is the inability to receive. Perhaps the prevailing theme in our homes as children was that money was dirty, that is was ungodly to want money, or that we simply were not worthy or did not deserve abundance. We see struggle and financial need all around us, why should we deserve more?

Financial abundance is not predicated on deserving or worthiness. It is in direct relationship to your consciousness, your vibration, your belief about money and you willingness to receive. Your birthright is the abundance of all good, health, wealth and perfect self-expression. You are an extension of infinite mind, the creative intelligence from which you have come forth. All good is yours for the taking when you allow it into your consciousness. IF you are not living an abundant life, then you are resisting your good. Abundance is all around you, available to you when you are open to receive it. You can push it away with your thoughts and feelings of lack or you can receive it with your gratitude and willingness to allow it into your life.

Exercise: WOULDN’T IT BE NICE IF:

You add your heart’s desire to this statement. For instance, wouldn’t it be nice if I was financially free, if all of my relationships were in harmony, if a new work came to me that I loved etc. Ask for your dream! You are the architect of your thoughts and it is your thoughts that create your emotions and feelings from which your good comes. What does it feel like to be financially free???? Get into that feeling every day and watch how your life will open up.

Be Grateful for what you have for you are blessed with many wonderful things in your life. Stay focused on what is good in your life and be willing to receive more good.

This may sound too simplistic but as you work this exercise you will find that to stay consistently in a high consciousness takes constant awareness. It is easy to fall back into the old way of thinking and feeling and stay in that same familiar rut. It takes a commitment to step outside of your comfort zone and see life from a higher perspective but it is well worth the effort as your life begins to unfold in miraculous ways.

Let me know how this works for you. Write me a comment.

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Dream Big Dreams

“I am willing to expand beyond the limits I have placed on myself and those I have allowed others to place upon me.”

                        Iyanla Vanzant

We have been taught to set goals, create a plan, follow the plan each step of the way and in that consciousness we can make things happen. That can work if you do not let fear or discouragement stop you from continuing to work the plan. Perhaps that is the way you have accomplished all of your desires but it can be hard work. When we connect with a higher energy, we are utilizing more than just our mental abilities. We have the power to access the creative energy of the universe, which offers a broader range of options. We can tap into the consciousness that creates worlds and by allowing that vibration to guide us can open new opportunities that we never knew existed. Any idea, project or desire can be so much better and easier to manage when we allow the universe to handle the details. Stay aware of any new opportunities that come your way. If they feel right, follow through with them. Do not resist an idea that seems too unreal, too good. Anything is possible to one who appreciates his present good, listens to guidance from within, resists nothing and allows their good to unfold in right and perfect ways.

Try this Exercise:

1.      Make a list of several things that you want; harmony in your relationships, more financial prosperity; a new home etc.

2.      Set a written intention around each of them as if it had already happened. For example, “I am in harmony with my mate,” “Prosperity comes to me easily and effortlessly,” and “I love my beautiful new home.”

3.      How would you feel if these were true? Stay in that feeling for a few minutes. Keep the statements where you can see them and “feel” them frequently.

4.      The final step is the most difficult for most people for we are accustomed to seeing the negatives in life rather than the positives however, this is the step that brings about the manifestation. Each day, each moment of each day, stay focused on what is working in your life. When you find yourself in judgment, angry, confused, frustrated, fearful or overwhelmed, no matter how long you have held that vibration, take a moment to quiet your mind, decide that is not where you want to live and refocus.

5.      Find something to be positive about, someone to appreciate. Think about all of the things that are happening in your life right now that are wonderful. You car is running well, your hair looks great, you love the outfit you are wearing. It does not have to be a heavy thing to shift your vibration to a higher frequency. Compliment someone, go out and have a nice dinner, take in a funny movie. Do whatever you have to do to up level your thoughts and emotions. As you raise your vibration, you bring yourself into alignment with your intentions.

Let me know how this works for you.

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The Joy Is In The Journey

“Man is a magnet, and every line and dot and detail of his experiences come  by his own attraction.”

                                    Elizabeth Towne, 1906

So often when we first learn about our creative abilities, we want everything to change at once but it is the wise person who realizes that the result is not as much fun as the journey. Each time we fulfill a desire, there is a new desire born within us. Our life here on earth is a time of creating and we will always have new ideas come forth that call our energy to create more. Therefore, it does not matter how long it takes to accomplish each desire. If we try to hurry things along, we miss the joy of the journey.

This knowledge was first presented to me over 40 years ago when I was struggling as a single mother of three, divorced and angry, unhappy with my job with never enough money to pay my bills. In my thirty-three years of living, I had never heard that there were unlimited  possibilities for me, that I was the co-creator of my life experience and that I was connected to the very spirit of life from which everything has come. When I realized that my entire belief system was faulty and causing me to continue to create hardship and unhappiness, I was angry at first to think that I had lived thirty-three years without knowing the truth about life. Then I became so excited about the potential for the future that I forgot my anger and began to use these principles to transform my entire existence.

As I look back on those years, I am aware that my greatest joy was in the journey from darkness into light, from fear into faith, from anger into joy and from judgment into love. I learned that loving and accepting myself was the first step to living and accepting others, that gratitude and appreciation were the highest forms of prayer and that the vibrations of my constant and repeating thoughts were the force that continued to attract experiences to me. I really got it when I found that by changing my “stinking thinking”   I changed my life! The journey of discovery has continued to this day and I celebrate daily that this journey will not end but will only bring with it more possibilities to express and create. Life is an unfolding, unlimited journey of joy!!!

Exercise:

Write a new story about your life and how you want to feel about yourself, your family, your work, your body, your money etc. Make it exciting, uplifting, and creative. Don’t talk about what is but rather create what you would have it be. Read it daily and find the feeling place for each desire.

Affirmation: I am open to new possibilities of joy, peace and love in every aspect of my life.

Let me know how this works for you.

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Be Easy With Yourself

            “Appreciation of others and the appreciation of yourself are the closest vibrational matches to Source Energy of anything we have ever witnessed in this universe.”

                        From the Teachings of Abraham

One of the greatest gifts I have received from my study of metaphysical philosophy is that “life doesn’t have to be difficult”. Early in my studies of spiritual thought, I had the impression that we came into this life experience to learn and grow. I had heard that this life is a school ground and we are in kindergarten. As my understanding deepened, I realized that we came here to be joyous creators. We will expand and grow along the way, for all of life is evolving and expanding but our true purpose for being here is to bring love and joy to the world as joyous creators. We are here to take thought beyond where it has gone before.

Even if your life has been a struggle up to now, with a focused effort and willingness on your part, you can shift your perceptions and transform your experience. It has taken years of practicing certain thought patterns to bring yourself to where you are now. It will take some time to up level your vibration through a new improved system of thought.

Everyone that I have worked with over the years has experienced a high feeling of joy and expectancy as they have worked these principles. Those that became impatient or anxious slowed down their progress for a person cannot raise their vibration with impatient thoughts. Until you have a consistent high joy vibration, there will be times when it feels as if nothing is happening. Do not despair for you have simply fallen back into your comfortable vibration, the one you have lived with for years. As you become conscious of this, simply shift your energy with a positive focus. I find that appreciation works well. Appreciation is a high joy vibration. Focus on appreciating the good things that are in your life already. You will be delighted to feel how easy it is to make that shift. Remember to be easy with yourself. Enjoy the journey into”joy”.

Exercise:

1.      Every night for one week, spend five minutes before going to sleep to focus on something in your day that brought you joy. Take that energy into your sleep state.

2.      End that time with this affirmation: “I sleep in peace, awake in joy and live in the consciousness of God”.

3.      Begin each day by focusing on the beauty of the day or anything that allows you to feel good. You are setting your tone for the day.

Let me know how this works for you and how you feel differently after one week of this practice. You might want to incorporate this as a daily practice after the first week. You will find that you sleep better and feel better getting up in the morning.

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Know Who You Are; You Are a Creator

“To activate the creative forces that lie dormant in your life, you must go to the unseen world, the world beyond form.”

                        Wayne Dyer

You have the ability to create because you are part of a larger system of creative intelligence that permeates the universe. You may not have known it but you have been creating all of your life. Everything that has ever happened to you was because of your creation. Now don’t panic! Even the bad things that have happened to you have brought you to this place today where you are learning how to create what you want rather than what you don’t want.

We cannot help but create because we are thinking beings and every thought carries a vibration that draws unto itself a like vibration. For instance, if you are choosing thoughts of fear about your job and possibly being one of those about to be “downsized”, the vibration that you are radiating into the milieu of universal creative intelligence can only attract back to you experiences that are in alignment with that vibration.

The law of attraction works every time just like gravity. It is not personal; it is the law. If you were to look at the possibility of being downsized and chose to set into motion by your thoughts the idea that you were open to the highest and perfect outcome in this situation, whether that means losing your job or not, you will put forth a vibration that is in alignment with your higher self. Now, you can relax, stay in that vibration and allow your highest good to come forth. There may be something better for you than your current job. BY staying open, you are allowing your greater good to come to you. You will be guided into inspired action when the time is right.

It is that easy! You will be delighted to see how this works in your favor every time. Remember, if it is right for you, then it is right for those around you. You highest good is always in alignment with the highest good of those around you even if they don’t see it right away.

Exercise:

1.      Choose just one of the desires that are in your heart right now.

2.      Write down how you would feel if that desire was fulfilled.

3.      Ask for guidance for your next step.

4.      Give thanks that it is already done.

Affirmation: I am open to right and perfect outcomes for the desires of my heart.

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Be the Voice for Love in the World

            “Love is the canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination.”

                                                                        Voltaire

You might think that loving yourself is selfish and indeed it is. Until you decide that you are the most important person in your life, you will not be all that you can be to others. Loving and accepting yourself unconditionally allows you to see the magnificence of others. There is no need to compare or withhold self from others. There is a confidence, a gentleness, a peace from within which only comes from self acceptance. You radiate a willingness to serve, not enable, to give, not control, to receive, not take.

So where do we begin to fall in love with ourselves?????

Become a witness to your own self talk.

Stop all deprecating thoughts about yourself.

Develop the habit of appreciation for the little things about yourself.

Look for things to appreciate, the little ways you show up in the world that make a difference. You will automatically extend that to others.

Forgive yourself for judging you. You have always done the best job you have known how to do/

Give thanks for new beginnings.

Let go of any resentment about another for that is a killer of self-esteem.

Look for the good in others, focus on their strengths instead of their weaknesses. Remember, what goes around, comes around. Treat others the way you want to be treated. That way everyone wins.

Affirmation:  I love and accept myself unconditionally. I appreciate who I am and what I bring to the world.

Let me know how this works for you.

Thanks,

Carole

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Gratitude Invites More Good

Gratitude Invites More Good

            “If the only prayer you ever say in your whole life is ‘Thank You’, that would suffice.”

                                                            Meister Eckhart

Whether you want more money, success, love or anything else, when you establish a lifetime habit of thankfulness and appreciation for what you have, that vibration opens your heart for more good to come forth. When you understand that gratitude is a cause and not an effect, your life is transformed.

What have you appreciated today? What did you find to complain about? Authentic gratitude is the most powerful prayer on this planet. Nothing will raise your vibration faster or higher than being thankful for the good I your life. Focus on what is right and perfect in your life, focus on the positive aspects of others and watch how your spirit is lifted and your life takes on new meaning with unlimited good coming your way.

Gratitude is my constant companion. It is my dominant spiritual practice and I have been rewarded a million times over because of this one very special and powerful spiritual practice. I give thanks for parking spaces, unexpected income and a beautiful winter day. I live in awe of how the universe conspired to bring me my good. When I stay focused on the good in my life, set intentions for what I want and stay out of the way of the details of how my dreams will come true, I find that I attract people, experiences and opportunities far more spectacular than I ever could have imagined.

Exercise;

1.      Begin a gratitude journal. Each night write down three things that you appreciated about your day. What brought you joy? Then set three intentions for the next day.

2.      Take your focus off of what is not working and place it on what is working.

3.      Parts of your life which are causing stress will be lifted up to your higher vibration and solutions will come forth.

Affirmation: I love and appreciate my life. I give thanks for all of the good that comes to me every day. I am open and receptive to my good.

Let me know how this works for you

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Understanding the Law of Attraction

            “Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”

                                                            Wayne Dyer

The Law of Attraction is based on the Law of Vibration. As pure energy beings, the vibration that drives our lives is determined by the ideas that we are emotionally involved with each moment of the day. We are magnets that always attract back into our experience that which is in alignment with our dominant vibration. We can’t expect harmony in our relationships if we are judging others. Focusing on problems will only enhance the problem but focusing on things we love and appreciate will allow solutions to our problems to come forth.

Our spiritual journey is to open to the greater dimension of our true self. There is that part of us which has never been harmed or programmed in any way.  With intention, practice, vision and meditation, we can uncover that dimension of our self that has no beginning and no end.

The first step to using the Law of Attraction is AWARENESS that change is possible. Taking responsibility without guilt brings freedom beyond compare.

The second step in working with the Law of Attraction is to set a NEW VISION for your life. It takes 30 days of mental and emotional reprogramming to start seeing the difference between your old self and your new higher vibratory self.

Exercise: WOULDN’T IT BE NICE IF:

The Law of Attraction is always working based on your dominant thought pattern. Here is an easy exercise to establish thought patterns that support you living an abundant life. I suggest writing because it plants the ideas more firmly in your subconscious mind.

Write: wouldn’t it be nice if: you add your hearts desires. For instance, wouldn’t it be nice if I were financially free, if all of my relationships were in harmony, if a new work came to me that I loved etc. Ask for your dream.

Try this for 30 days and watch your life come alive with new possibilities.

Let me know how it works for you.

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We Train Others How to Treat Us

                        “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

                                                Gandhi

When we allow others to treat us negatively, we are telling then that it is alright.  Soon it becomes a pattern. Many relationships dissolve over these patterns of destructive behavior. We can retrain people to treat us lovingly when we ask for their respect. One way to be treated well is to treat others the way you want to be treated. The Golden Rule never goes out of style.

Be loving, kind and supportive of others and they will return the favor. If someone close to you treats you with disrespect, tell them that is unacceptable behavior. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated and others will follow suit.

Affirmation:

I love and respect who I am and expect that same love and respect from others.

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