Healing Relationships

"Ther are no justified resentments. Give up your personal history."

Wayne Dyer

I recently performed a memorial service for an old friend of mine. She lived and died very unhappy and depressed. I once asked her why she found life so unpleasant and she told me it was because of her husband. He was critical, controlling and dominated every aspect of her life. For over 60 years that they were married, she chose to live as a victim. Every time she blamed him for her unhappiness, she was giving him to power to control her. At any time, she could have chosen to see him differently, chosen to make decisions for herself. Their marriage became a dance of aggressive and passive aggressive behavior. Had she chosen to appreciate the good in her husband instead of focusing only on his negative aspects their marriage could have transformed into one of love and harmony or they both would have realized that they were not a match made in heaven.

There is no magic in transforming relationships, it simply requires your willingness to get off of any position that you have taken that makes the other person wrong. It means that you no longer criticize or judge; rather you become the very person you want to be in relationship with. How often have you described the perfect mate in terms that you are not living yourself? If you want an open, loving, communicative, vulnerable and harmonious relationship, you have to demonstrate those attributes yourself. Marriages of many years have a history, some of it joyful and some painful. Focusing on the hurtful parts will not foster a transforming marriage but will tear it down and often lead to divorce. Keeping the joy alive means remember the good times, choose every day to create more good, more joy, more love and acceptance. The past has only the power that you give it.

The moment that you take responsibility for your relationships, you will see imporvement right away. Try it!!!!

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Gratitude is the Key to Happiness

"If the only prayer you ever say in your whole life is 'Thank you,' that would suffice.
Meister Eckhart

Whether you want more money, success, love or anything else, when you establish a lifetime habit of thankfulness and appreciation for what you have, that vibration opens your heart for more good to come forth. When you understand that gratitude is a cause and not an effect, your life is transformed.

What have you appreciated today? What did you find to complain about? Gratitude is the most powerful prayer on this planet. Nothing will raise your vibration faster or higher than being thankful for the good in your life. Focus on what is right and perfect in your life, focus on the positive aspects of others and watch how your spirit is lifted and your life takes on new meaning with unlimited good coming your way.

Gratitude is my constant companion. It is my dominant spiritual practice and I have been rewarded a million times over because of this one very special and powerful spiritual practice. I give thanks for parking spaces, unexpected income and a beautiful winter day. I live in awe of how the universe conspires to bring me my good. When I stay focused on the good in my life, set intentions for what I want and stay out of the details of how my dreams will come true, I find that I attract people, experiences and opportunities far more spectacular than I ever could have imagined.

Exercise: Gratitude Journal

Each night write three things that you appreciated about your day. Then set three intentions for the next day.

Affirmation: I give thanks that my life is unfolding in its right and perfect way.

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What is My Purpose in Life?

What is my purpose in life? Why am I here? Is there an order to the universe? Do I make a difference?

I have pondered these questions for years, much like you I suspect, and although the answers have come in many models, I know that I have just scratched the surface of my understanding.  Having been a student of truth for the past 40 years, I have studied many teachings, philosophies and techniques, experimenting and discarding systems of mind expansion and enlightenment. I feel that the positive thinking era is no longer a powerful enough model for man to live by. It is time to go deeper within the power of the mind to explore our innate potential for creativity.

Through positive thinking we can affirm a truth and in the beginning the mind will expand beyond the parameters of its normal thinking. These good thoughts will flow with the movement of the universal thought pattern and attain a higher level of energy and creativity than ever reached before and we find our lives changing dramatically.  After a period of time, perhaps a year or maybe six to eight years, we realize that the initial growth in consciousness that was so life changing hasn’t expanded any further. We are not growing in depth, we are just maintaining or perhaps even feel ourselves slipping back into our earlier attitudes and mind sets.

This is the time to go deeper into mind, deeper into soul. It is not a matter of reading another book or attending another class because books and teachers can only give their opinions, beliefs and theories. When we find ourselves voicing someone else’s belief, we can know that this is not our own soul understanding and therefore cannot create for us from the depths of our being. All of the techniques and methods that we use can only manifest from the level of our understanding. The deeper our understanding of truth, the more powerful our demonstration. We can affirm ‘God is my source’ for years and perhaps attain a fairly consistent level of prosperity from a surface awareness of that statement. Once we go deeper and ponder this statement as well as the concept of truth behind it, we must question, “What does God is my source mean? What is God? What is source?” we find that a new level of understanding emerges, not someone else’s belief but our own awareness of this knowing and we find that our manifestations are very different. On a surface level “God is my source’ might bring unexpected income, a better paying job, but at a deeper level, it can mean a consistent flow of abundance in all areas of life coming from an inexhaustible reservoir of plenty. The methods of manifestation matter not, the techniques are numerous but the degree of success depends on the depth of understanding. It is no longer enough to create a picture in our mind of our desire and affirm that it is so. For the novice perhaps, for the serious student on the path, the thought must go deeper. There needs to be a soul understanding of the principle behind the thought. Visualizing and affirming are still good as long as we have the faith behind the picture that all things are possible to one who believes.

Spiritual study is the study of life from a deeper perspective and it is individual in its comprehension. As we go beneath the surface of thought and journey inward, truth is revealed not in quantum leaps but in doses that we can grasp and integrate in our daily lives. The importance of this inner journey is to reveal our life’s lessons and purpose, to create an opening for greater understanding and to move us into an experience of universal oneness. This is not found in books but rather in the silence of our own mind. W can touch that inner source of knowledge and awareness through a daily discipline of silent observation. Silent observation is simply taking some time each day for sitting in the silence, breathing gently and observing the thoughts that enter and flow through the mind. Whatever knowledge is needed will surface because we have created an opening in our mind for its arrival.

The wisdom that lies within us is tuned to our individual growth and will guide us to the right and perfect place for us at all times. Our own unfolding path does not always meet our worldly expectations thus the inner struggle between mental manipulation and spiritual growth. Following a vision in life is being open to unexpected turns in the road. Goals that are etched in stone leave no space for twists and turns and therefore are very limiting to our inner journey. Sitting in the silence is not an event but simply an experience of quiet solitude. It is sometimes difficult to be with ourselves in the quiet. You can listen to a meditation CD that takes you into the quiet. Whatever works for you. Be easy with yourself. This journey is one of great joy.

Affirmation: My life is unfolding in its right and perfect way and I am grateful.

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Self Acceptance is the Key to Happiness

Most of us have lived lives of ‘quiet desperation’ as Thoreau said, replaying our programmed subconscious tapes of criticism, not good enough, failure; I never do anything right; nobody loves me and what’s wrong with me! With constant chatter going on it is not surprising to discover that life brings us experiences that reinforce our predominant thought patterns.

We can counteract those negative thoughts with positive phrases such as: I am wonderful; everything I do is successful; my figure is sexy and beautiful; my mind is filled with wisdom and so on; however, the resistance (called second force) that comes up when we entertain these ideas forces us unconsciously to choose between what we have ‘always’ believed and the ‘new’ thought. The strength of the old beliefs usually will overpower the new and our level of self-esteem remains the same. The only difference being that now we walk around with a smile because we are a positive thinker.

Instead of this mental manipulation, how do you suppose it would feel if we were to just be O.K. with ourselves, where we are in life, how we look, what our Dun and Bradstreet rating is, whether we are in a relationship or not….to appreciate ourselves just the way we are with no ego needs to be met, no changes necessary, no need to be better than we are right here, right now!!

It is the natural course of the universe to propel us forward, into ever changing, always unfolding modes of growth that serves the highest potential within the divine plan of this life experience. We each travel a unique individualized path of spiritual growth and awareness. BY accepting ourselves just the way we are, we become open to a higher force, a divine power that will guide and direct us to the greatest growth possibilities. Following this path is more demanding, more rewarding and far more stimulating than the way of the world.

The common person manipulates the world based on the expectations of society. The extraordinary person flows with the tides of the universe, sliding around curves, bending with the wind, experiencing leaps of consciousness by simply being still; listening and moving forward into the motion of life, not as something to accomplish but rather as an experience to be cherished and lived. Accepting ourselves just the way we are with all of our faults, all of our ‘stuff’ moves us away from the destructive critical self talk that has dominated our consciousness and opens the possibility of expanded awareness beyond anything we have ever known.

Oh, by the way, this accepting ourselves just the way we are idea is a lifelong process. There are no techniques, no short cuts and no affirmations that will take us there. This is truly a journey of the soul. Just stay focused on the beauty around you, the many blessings that fill your life, appreciate and be grateful for the many aspects of your life that are working. You will be amazed how the solutions to your problems with come forth.  Can you do that?  A better question is are you willing to do that? Try it for 30 days and see what happens in your life.

Let me know how it works for you

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The Divine Relationship

“There is only one relationship out of which all others are born, that is the divine relationship we have with “self.”

The Human desire is for relationship! From the time we enter the planet, we need other to nurture and love us. The medical experts tell us that a child deprived of a loving touch will die of emotional starvation. The need to be connected with others is a basic human need which comes from having moved as souls from a state of total conscious awareness to a relatively unconscious mental condition. You might say that we lost ourselves when we are born and that sense of separation keeps us searching for that right relationship that will make us feel complete. Of course, this cannot happen, for we are already complete, with a full capacity for aliveness. Unfortunately, we don’t come with a set of instructions, so we spend a lifetime trying to fill the void we feel within by changing partners or blaming the one we’re with for our emptiness.

There is only one relationship out of which all others area born, that is the divine relationship we have with “self”. By self I am referring to that spark of life energy that was created out of God consciousness and is evolving as you and I. The “self” is complete, divine, perfect and pure love but how many of us see ourselves that way? We humans tend to focus on our imperfections which leads to criticism and judgment that results in the deepest of self hatred.

Why then do we think that the right person in our life is going to make us feel better? I suppose it is as simple and as complex as believing if someone else loves us, then we must be loveable and our self hatred gets pushed aside until we experience criticism or judgment from our loved one and the self hatred rears its ugly head even stronger and once again we come to the conclusion that we must be a terrible person for this loved one to have changed their mind about us. Of course, what our loved one is doing is simply projecting their own fears and insecurities and whatever other issues they are dealing with at the moment towards the person closest to them. That is the dance that many couples participate in throughout the relationship until one of them can’t take it anymore and leaves. Both will experience a deepened self hatred but the one that was rejected often will go through a period of depression with obsessive thoughts of the dearly departed. That pattern is often repeated through successive relationships until we discover that the intimacy with another that we crave is actually the deep desire to fill the void that we feel within our own soul, that sense of separation that we have with our God-self.

The divine relationship is nurtured through self-acceptance and self love of who we are right here and now, recognizing that our human nature is sometimes petty, mean, jealous and downright nasty. Accepting that shadow side of our personality allows us to accept the loving, forgiving side which is the normal polarity of our humanness. I believe that we are here on this planet to learn to love everyone, a universal love that will bring us into a love relationship with every soul we meet. That inter-connectedness that we are striving for begins in our own heart and mind by first accepting who we are, just the way we are and loving ourselves no matter how many mistakes we make and then extending that unconditional love and acceptance to our brothers and sisters of the world.

This divine relationship with self brings about inner peace, family harmony, communities working together, nation’s united and global oneness. The first step is yours and mine and until we take it, nothing on earth will change either individually or collectively. Perhaps the slogan from the 60’s can be resurrected, “Make Love, Not War.” Begin today to think better of yourself, to treat your mate and family with the love and respect that you desire and see if that doesn’t make a difference in every aspect of your life. Imagine a world filled with souls committed to loving one another, an idea whose time has come.

How have you made a difference in your world by loving and accepting yourself? Share your thoughts with us. We need to learn from each other.

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Believe in Yourself

"Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties."

Eric Fromm

In the circus, the trapeze artists are the most revered for they have the most frightening acts. Flying through the air with nothing but space beneath you and the next trapeze bar not yet in your reach can be exhilarating or fearful. It depends on the amount of practicing you have done. A good trapeze artist has spent many years in the practice of this art and feels nothing but total freedom when between the bars. That is a wonderful metaphor for your spiritual journey.

The art of creating a joyous life requires your commitment to:

* Ask for what you want, define your desire.

* Choose thoughts that are in alignment with your desire

* Follow inspired guidance and allow the universe to handle the details.

Master these practices and you will be exhilarated when you find yourself flying through changes in your life. When the unexpected happens, you will trust that everything is working together for your good. Life is at its most creative when you are in the void not knowing what the outcome will be, but believing it will be good. It is the PROCESS of creating that is most enlivening, not the result, for when it is complete; we will simply have another desire to fulfill. You will never be without desires, wanting to reach beyond where you have already been. That is the exciting nature of life itself. So live in the space between the trapeze bars and enjoy the journey.

What is your heart’s desire?? Let’s talk about how you can create your desire.

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The Healing Power of Forgiveness

"There are no justified resentments. Give up your personal history."
Wayne Dyer

Judgment, anger, resentment, guilt, shame and fear are emotions that come out of your response to life. When you no longer judge others then there is nothing to forgive. Realize that everyone is doing the best job they know how to do with the awareness that they have at any given time. The terrible things that are done to others come from hearts that are crying out for love. A heart that is open, loving and kind has no desire to hurt another. A loving heart would not even have those thoughts, for hateful thoughts would not be in alignment with its dominant vibration of love, peace and joy.

How would your life transform if there were no judgments’ in your heart? What would you have to release in order to accept everyone in your life? Unconditional acceptance means that I accept you just the way you are. I have no need to change you so that I feel better in your presence.

Try this exercise:

If there is someone you are holding judgment around, for one week focus on their positive attributes-the many things that make them a good person. Do not say that there is nothing good about this person for they are in your life for a reason. Nothing happens by accident in the universal scheme of life. Everything has a purpose, which is why we attract people and circumstances to us. The person you have negative feelings about just might be there to show you how to love unconditionally.

When you make another person wrong, you are bringing yourself into vibrational alignment with that which you have judged as wrong. That energy will attract to you more people and experiences that are in alignment with that vibration. That is why releasing a negative relationship through forgiveness, opens you up for a better feeling relationship.

We often attract the same type of person to us over and over again because that is what we are vibrating. The same goes for a job or a boss that you do not like. You leave one job only to find the next job or the next boss has the same irritating traits.

The way to a joyous life with happy people and exciting creative circumstances is to lift your vibration by focusing on what is good in your world, what is good about the people around you and to disconnect from any negative thinking. Try for a week and watch how your life begins to transform and new opportunities come forth.

Let go of the past, forgive everyone whom you have held negative feelings for, focus on how good life is, appreciate every moment of every day and soon you will find yourself surrounded by joyous people living joyous lives. See yourself body, mind and spirit as whole and perfect just the way you came forth into this physical dimension to experience life.

Write to me and let me know how you are doing with this exercise.

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Be Willing To Receive

“To receive we must be alert, awake and prepared to receive.”

                        Matthew Fox

Some of us are wonderful givers and yet remain in lack. The reason is the inability to receive. Perhaps the prevailing theme in our homes as children was that money was dirty, that is was ungodly to want money, or that we simply were not worthy or did not deserve abundance. We see struggle and financial need all around us, why should we deserve more?

Financial abundance is not predicated on deserving or worthiness. It is in direct relationship to your consciousness, your vibration, your belief about money and you willingness to receive. Your birthright is the abundance of all good, health, wealth and perfect self-expression. You are an extension of infinite mind, the creative intelligence from which you have come forth. All good is yours for the taking when you allow it into your consciousness. IF you are not living an abundant life, then you are resisting your good. Abundance is all around you, available to you when you are open to receive it. You can push it away with your thoughts and feelings of lack or you can receive it with your gratitude and willingness to allow it into your life.

Exercise: WOULDN’T IT BE NICE IF:

You add your heart’s desire to this statement. For instance, wouldn’t it be nice if I was financially free, if all of my relationships were in harmony, if a new work came to me that I loved etc. Ask for your dream! You are the architect of your thoughts and it is your thoughts that create your emotions and feelings from which your good comes. What does it feel like to be financially free???? Get into that feeling every day and watch how your life will open up.

Be Grateful for what you have for you are blessed with many wonderful things in your life. Stay focused on what is good in your life and be willing to receive more good.

This may sound too simplistic but as you work this exercise you will find that to stay consistently in a high consciousness takes constant awareness. It is easy to fall back into the old way of thinking and feeling and stay in that same familiar rut. It takes a commitment to step outside of your comfort zone and see life from a higher perspective but it is well worth the effort as your life begins to unfold in miraculous ways.

Let me know how this works for you. Write me a comment.

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Dream Big Dreams

“I am willing to expand beyond the limits I have placed on myself and those I have allowed others to place upon me.”

                        Iyanla Vanzant

We have been taught to set goals, create a plan, follow the plan each step of the way and in that consciousness we can make things happen. That can work if you do not let fear or discouragement stop you from continuing to work the plan. Perhaps that is the way you have accomplished all of your desires but it can be hard work. When we connect with a higher energy, we are utilizing more than just our mental abilities. We have the power to access the creative energy of the universe, which offers a broader range of options. We can tap into the consciousness that creates worlds and by allowing that vibration to guide us can open new opportunities that we never knew existed. Any idea, project or desire can be so much better and easier to manage when we allow the universe to handle the details. Stay aware of any new opportunities that come your way. If they feel right, follow through with them. Do not resist an idea that seems too unreal, too good. Anything is possible to one who appreciates his present good, listens to guidance from within, resists nothing and allows their good to unfold in right and perfect ways.

Try this Exercise:

1.      Make a list of several things that you want; harmony in your relationships, more financial prosperity; a new home etc.

2.      Set a written intention around each of them as if it had already happened. For example, “I am in harmony with my mate,” “Prosperity comes to me easily and effortlessly,” and “I love my beautiful new home.”

3.      How would you feel if these were true? Stay in that feeling for a few minutes. Keep the statements where you can see them and “feel” them frequently.

4.      The final step is the most difficult for most people for we are accustomed to seeing the negatives in life rather than the positives however, this is the step that brings about the manifestation. Each day, each moment of each day, stay focused on what is working in your life. When you find yourself in judgment, angry, confused, frustrated, fearful or overwhelmed, no matter how long you have held that vibration, take a moment to quiet your mind, decide that is not where you want to live and refocus.

5.      Find something to be positive about, someone to appreciate. Think about all of the things that are happening in your life right now that are wonderful. You car is running well, your hair looks great, you love the outfit you are wearing. It does not have to be a heavy thing to shift your vibration to a higher frequency. Compliment someone, go out and have a nice dinner, take in a funny movie. Do whatever you have to do to up level your thoughts and emotions. As you raise your vibration, you bring yourself into alignment with your intentions.

Let me know how this works for you.

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The Joy Is In The Journey

“Man is a magnet, and every line and dot and detail of his experiences come  by his own attraction.”

                                    Elizabeth Towne, 1906

So often when we first learn about our creative abilities, we want everything to change at once but it is the wise person who realizes that the result is not as much fun as the journey. Each time we fulfill a desire, there is a new desire born within us. Our life here on earth is a time of creating and we will always have new ideas come forth that call our energy to create more. Therefore, it does not matter how long it takes to accomplish each desire. If we try to hurry things along, we miss the joy of the journey.

This knowledge was first presented to me over 40 years ago when I was struggling as a single mother of three, divorced and angry, unhappy with my job with never enough money to pay my bills. In my thirty-three years of living, I had never heard that there were unlimited  possibilities for me, that I was the co-creator of my life experience and that I was connected to the very spirit of life from which everything has come. When I realized that my entire belief system was faulty and causing me to continue to create hardship and unhappiness, I was angry at first to think that I had lived thirty-three years without knowing the truth about life. Then I became so excited about the potential for the future that I forgot my anger and began to use these principles to transform my entire existence.

As I look back on those years, I am aware that my greatest joy was in the journey from darkness into light, from fear into faith, from anger into joy and from judgment into love. I learned that loving and accepting myself was the first step to living and accepting others, that gratitude and appreciation were the highest forms of prayer and that the vibrations of my constant and repeating thoughts were the force that continued to attract experiences to me. I really got it when I found that by changing my “stinking thinking”   I changed my life! The journey of discovery has continued to this day and I celebrate daily that this journey will not end but will only bring with it more possibilities to express and create. Life is an unfolding, unlimited journey of joy!!!

Exercise:

Write a new story about your life and how you want to feel about yourself, your family, your work, your body, your money etc. Make it exciting, uplifting, and creative. Don’t talk about what is but rather create what you would have it be. Read it daily and find the feeling place for each desire.

Affirmation: I am open to new possibilities of joy, peace and love in every aspect of my life.

Let me know how this works for you.

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Be Easy With Yourself

            “Appreciation of others and the appreciation of yourself are the closest vibrational matches to Source Energy of anything we have ever witnessed in this universe.”

                        From the Teachings of Abraham

One of the greatest gifts I have received from my study of metaphysical philosophy is that “life doesn’t have to be difficult”. Early in my studies of spiritual thought, I had the impression that we came into this life experience to learn and grow. I had heard that this life is a school ground and we are in kindergarten. As my understanding deepened, I realized that we came here to be joyous creators. We will expand and grow along the way, for all of life is evolving and expanding but our true purpose for being here is to bring love and joy to the world as joyous creators. We are here to take thought beyond where it has gone before.

Even if your life has been a struggle up to now, with a focused effort and willingness on your part, you can shift your perceptions and transform your experience. It has taken years of practicing certain thought patterns to bring yourself to where you are now. It will take some time to up level your vibration through a new improved system of thought.

Everyone that I have worked with over the years has experienced a high feeling of joy and expectancy as they have worked these principles. Those that became impatient or anxious slowed down their progress for a person cannot raise their vibration with impatient thoughts. Until you have a consistent high joy vibration, there will be times when it feels as if nothing is happening. Do not despair for you have simply fallen back into your comfortable vibration, the one you have lived with for years. As you become conscious of this, simply shift your energy with a positive focus. I find that appreciation works well. Appreciation is a high joy vibration. Focus on appreciating the good things that are in your life already. You will be delighted to feel how easy it is to make that shift. Remember to be easy with yourself. Enjoy the journey into”joy”.

Exercise:

1.      Every night for one week, spend five minutes before going to sleep to focus on something in your day that brought you joy. Take that energy into your sleep state.

2.      End that time with this affirmation: “I sleep in peace, awake in joy and live in the consciousness of God”.

3.      Begin each day by focusing on the beauty of the day or anything that allows you to feel good. You are setting your tone for the day.

Let me know how this works for you and how you feel differently after one week of this practice. You might want to incorporate this as a daily practice after the first week. You will find that you sleep better and feel better getting up in the morning.

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Know Who You Are; You Are a Creator

“To activate the creative forces that lie dormant in your life, you must go to the unseen world, the world beyond form.”

                        Wayne Dyer

You have the ability to create because you are part of a larger system of creative intelligence that permeates the universe. You may not have known it but you have been creating all of your life. Everything that has ever happened to you was because of your creation. Now don’t panic! Even the bad things that have happened to you have brought you to this place today where you are learning how to create what you want rather than what you don’t want.

We cannot help but create because we are thinking beings and every thought carries a vibration that draws unto itself a like vibration. For instance, if you are choosing thoughts of fear about your job and possibly being one of those about to be “downsized”, the vibration that you are radiating into the milieu of universal creative intelligence can only attract back to you experiences that are in alignment with that vibration.

The law of attraction works every time just like gravity. It is not personal; it is the law. If you were to look at the possibility of being downsized and chose to set into motion by your thoughts the idea that you were open to the highest and perfect outcome in this situation, whether that means losing your job or not, you will put forth a vibration that is in alignment with your higher self. Now, you can relax, stay in that vibration and allow your highest good to come forth. There may be something better for you than your current job. BY staying open, you are allowing your greater good to come to you. You will be guided into inspired action when the time is right.

It is that easy! You will be delighted to see how this works in your favor every time. Remember, if it is right for you, then it is right for those around you. You highest good is always in alignment with the highest good of those around you even if they don’t see it right away.

Exercise:

1.      Choose just one of the desires that are in your heart right now.

2.      Write down how you would feel if that desire was fulfilled.

3.      Ask for guidance for your next step.

4.      Give thanks that it is already done.

Affirmation: I am open to right and perfect outcomes for the desires of my heart.

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Be the Voice for Love in the World

            “Love is the canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination.”

                                                                        Voltaire

You might think that loving yourself is selfish and indeed it is. Until you decide that you are the most important person in your life, you will not be all that you can be to others. Loving and accepting yourself unconditionally allows you to see the magnificence of others. There is no need to compare or withhold self from others. There is a confidence, a gentleness, a peace from within which only comes from self acceptance. You radiate a willingness to serve, not enable, to give, not control, to receive, not take.

So where do we begin to fall in love with ourselves?????

Become a witness to your own self talk.

Stop all deprecating thoughts about yourself.

Develop the habit of appreciation for the little things about yourself.

Look for things to appreciate, the little ways you show up in the world that make a difference. You will automatically extend that to others.

Forgive yourself for judging you. You have always done the best job you have known how to do/

Give thanks for new beginnings.

Let go of any resentment about another for that is a killer of self-esteem.

Look for the good in others, focus on their strengths instead of their weaknesses. Remember, what goes around, comes around. Treat others the way you want to be treated. That way everyone wins.

Affirmation:  I love and accept myself unconditionally. I appreciate who I am and what I bring to the world.

Let me know how this works for you.

Thanks,

Carole

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Gratitude Invites More Good

Gratitude Invites More Good

            “If the only prayer you ever say in your whole life is ‘Thank You’, that would suffice.”

                                                            Meister Eckhart

Whether you want more money, success, love or anything else, when you establish a lifetime habit of thankfulness and appreciation for what you have, that vibration opens your heart for more good to come forth. When you understand that gratitude is a cause and not an effect, your life is transformed.

What have you appreciated today? What did you find to complain about? Authentic gratitude is the most powerful prayer on this planet. Nothing will raise your vibration faster or higher than being thankful for the good I your life. Focus on what is right and perfect in your life, focus on the positive aspects of others and watch how your spirit is lifted and your life takes on new meaning with unlimited good coming your way.

Gratitude is my constant companion. It is my dominant spiritual practice and I have been rewarded a million times over because of this one very special and powerful spiritual practice. I give thanks for parking spaces, unexpected income and a beautiful winter day. I live in awe of how the universe conspired to bring me my good. When I stay focused on the good in my life, set intentions for what I want and stay out of the way of the details of how my dreams will come true, I find that I attract people, experiences and opportunities far more spectacular than I ever could have imagined.

Exercise;

1.      Begin a gratitude journal. Each night write down three things that you appreciated about your day. What brought you joy? Then set three intentions for the next day.

2.      Take your focus off of what is not working and place it on what is working.

3.      Parts of your life which are causing stress will be lifted up to your higher vibration and solutions will come forth.

Affirmation: I love and appreciate my life. I give thanks for all of the good that comes to me every day. I am open and receptive to my good.

Let me know how this works for you

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Understanding the Law of Attraction

            “Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”

                                                            Wayne Dyer

The Law of Attraction is based on the Law of Vibration. As pure energy beings, the vibration that drives our lives is determined by the ideas that we are emotionally involved with each moment of the day. We are magnets that always attract back into our experience that which is in alignment with our dominant vibration. We can’t expect harmony in our relationships if we are judging others. Focusing on problems will only enhance the problem but focusing on things we love and appreciate will allow solutions to our problems to come forth.

Our spiritual journey is to open to the greater dimension of our true self. There is that part of us which has never been harmed or programmed in any way.  With intention, practice, vision and meditation, we can uncover that dimension of our self that has no beginning and no end.

The first step to using the Law of Attraction is AWARENESS that change is possible. Taking responsibility without guilt brings freedom beyond compare.

The second step in working with the Law of Attraction is to set a NEW VISION for your life. It takes 30 days of mental and emotional reprogramming to start seeing the difference between your old self and your new higher vibratory self.

Exercise: WOULDN’T IT BE NICE IF:

The Law of Attraction is always working based on your dominant thought pattern. Here is an easy exercise to establish thought patterns that support you living an abundant life. I suggest writing because it plants the ideas more firmly in your subconscious mind.

Write: wouldn’t it be nice if: you add your hearts desires. For instance, wouldn’t it be nice if I were financially free, if all of my relationships were in harmony, if a new work came to me that I loved etc. Ask for your dream.

Try this for 30 days and watch your life come alive with new possibilities.

Let me know how it works for you.

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We Train Others How to Treat Us

                        “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

                                                Gandhi

When we allow others to treat us negatively, we are telling then that it is alright.  Soon it becomes a pattern. Many relationships dissolve over these patterns of destructive behavior. We can retrain people to treat us lovingly when we ask for their respect. One way to be treated well is to treat others the way you want to be treated. The Golden Rule never goes out of style.

Be loving, kind and supportive of others and they will return the favor. If someone close to you treats you with disrespect, tell them that is unacceptable behavior. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated and others will follow suit.

Affirmation:

I love and respect who I am and expect that same love and respect from others.

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Forgiveness Empowers the Forgiver

“There are no justified resentments.”

                        Wayne Dyer

When bad things happen, we are at choice. Life is perception and our ability to stay focused and positive in the face of tragedy or upset determines what we attract into our future. We can determine that life is against us and continue to play out each negative experience until it consumes us or we can acknowledge our sadness, we can grieve our loss and realize that life is bigger than any one experience. We are here to experience joy. We don’t want to waste our precious life on anger or grief. Look for the gifts that come from every experience and you will feel your heart open to that great and wonderful love that resides within you.

When my adult son made his transition suddenly several years ago, I had the opportunity to experience grief first hand. Even though I fully believed that he was alive and well on the non-physical side of life, that didn’t diminish my human sadness. I allowed myself to feel the grief and loss and also know the truth that all was well in my life, in the life of my family and in his life. I know that his passing was perfect even if I don’t know the reasons why. I fully trust the process of life and I feel his presence often.

Every experience in life holds within it a gift, a seed that we can allow to blossom into its fullness or wither.

Exercise: Look at your life, being very real with yourself to see if there is any area that you are still upset about or anyone that you are holding resentment around. Ask yourself if you are willing to forgive so that you can be free. If the answer is yes, then the process of letting go of unhealed emotions is simple. Use these affirmations and feel them down to your very essence.

I love and accept myself and all others unconditionally. I let go of anything unlike love in my consciousness and behold the magnificence of everyone in my life.